Let's see..... worked on my other house. Tore out the tub surround she painted over and started painting the bathroom she half-painted a gawd-awful bright green.
The cleaner & more finished it gets and the less it stinks, the better the offers on it get, but they're not yet into the range I'm willing to accept so I'll keep working on it til they are.
3 floors, 3000 sq. ft., 5 bedrooms, 3 baths, 2 large south facing dormers for a total of 5 gables, large detached garage/shop 32'x56', 4 other outbuildings, 12 acres, water rights & irrigation equipment. The best offer so far is $78,000 below appraisal..... pretty sad. The main place where I'm living now is only about 2000 sq. ft. but sits on a lot more acreage.
Jbar,The end of this month will be my anniversary too. Ninth anniversary of my divorce! She wasn't a bad women, but I can honestly say I'm happier. The first year or so it seemed strange not having someone around. Now it seems strange if she visits me, nothing against her, I just like it that way. Keep your chin up, these things do get better.
Jbar, is there anything about your wife you DID like? Anything you will miss about the times you had together?
Sounds like a beautiful home, Are you going to still try to sell it? or just keep it if/when you remarry?
Lots of questions.......I too am divorced and there seems to always be things you will always love and miss even from the nasty ones!
Mountain: I'm beginning to understand the feeling, the longer I'm away from her the better I feel about it. Sharon's not really a bad woman either, but she's got a lot of bad, bad things from her past to deal with and until she gets help coming to terms with all of it, I'm afraid she'll never be quite right.
RavenMist: I'm afraid she & I never had very much in common at all other than our beautiful daughter. I'm a conservative, she's a liberal. I'm a dyed in the wool country boy, she's a city girl. I like the outdoors, she'd rather sit & watch TV for hours on end. I'm pro-gun/pro-hunting, she's anti/anti. And on and on and on. When I look back 10 years, I don't really know why we ever got married in the first place.
The big house & the small acreage at the lower place will still be sold when I finish getting the damage fixed & repairs done, I sure don't need 2 houses! This upper place will be where I remain living, the house isn't quite as nice and it isn't as large, but it has probably the best view of the Helena valley some 10-15 miles off of any home in the entire area, absolutely fantastic. I could easily sell this upper place as homesites and retire if I should so decide. Retired at 45..... hmmm, that's very appealing! I suppose it's possible I may remarry someday, but I'm going to be much more cautious about it! For now, I'm going to be happy just being "the cranky old hermit up on the hill".
Going to do a little in-country traveling and enjoy life for awhile. Probation people say that out-of-country travel is difficult when on probation or parole. I'm checking into airfares for my 15 year old & I to fly to San Antonio to see the Alamo this summer. The 7 year old doesn't want to go anywhere without her mom & half brother..... I don't think she can quite grasp what is happening between Sharon & I yet, it's a very sad thing to see and it hurts me to have to put her through this. I visited her in Missoula just yesterday and we had a great time for about 3 1/2 hours before we ran into mom & her boyfriend at the mall and she put a stop to it about 45 minutes early. Little bit of an argument and some bad words and I finally just walked away and drove back to Helena. There's no judgement on custody yet and no formal parenting plan in place so I didn't have much choice really. What a mess.
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